Heyyo!
Counting down till August, I have approximately 163 days left till D-day! That was fast, but I do wish it could be faster at times like this. It's like I can't wait for it to finally happen, for me to be as free as a bird.
Okay so perhaps having some events to countdown to will make the time pass by faster, so let me just list down the things I'm looking forward to from now till end April here.
23.03: Wild Wild Wet with Family & FS!
The last time we went to Adventure Cove was a blast, but it was without FS as he was working and couldn't take leave. I was a little disappointed, but at least everyone else was there. This time, I'm looking forward to it - even though I know that I'll end up with sore limbs the next day.
11.04: Damia's Birthday!
Young princess not so young anymore, hurhur. Technically she's not even the youngest now. But still perhaps there'll be good food to accomodate her birthday.
19.03: Good Friday.
Nothing much here, just a long weekend for me to appreciate.
Plus perhaps one more day to celebrate Kak Shikin & Ain's birthday. No date at the moment though, cause it's a last minute kinda thing but ya, another cake! :D
Oh, not to forget amidst these events - I also have medical checkups to follow up on. Which hopefully, will be in between the dates above so I get more non work days. To be honest, I'm dragging myself to work everyday so more non work days are a blessing for me. Until my next list!
Xox,
Being strategic at work
Tuesday, January 29, 2019
Heyyo!
Okay next post is up. I don't know, I think lately I've been having too much penned thoughts that it's affecting my behavior. Like I get annoyed much more easily cause I've been holding it in for too long. I know it's not good for me, so I'll go back to blogging.
This post, is about working efficiently. Let's be honest here, we - well majority of us work as diligently as possible and many time, our efforts are not seen by our immediate superiors unless we are one of those more outspoken or outgoing individuals.
I realize this since I started my part time job back in 2009. You have to be "in the group" to be recognized. If you're not, well you're just an average worker.
So that's fine for me cause I've been doing my own stuff and helping out as and when I can. I don't need more recognition cause I know I'm doing what I'm supposed to do. But then sometimes you are limited your own position in certain situations. And this is when you need a superior to step in.
I typed out a whole lengthy piece, but it got so personal I had to re-write the second half of it. Anyway, back to working efficiently. I used to eat and work during my lunch hours - meaning throwing my one hour of rest time away. I used to not care when I needed to wait for the team to arrive at the office before being able to make my way home. I could have claimed hours and hours of time off, but I didn't cause I didn't put that much attention into it.
Until I realized that I've been doing it all wrong. You see, people will point out our mistakes when they see us make one, but they will not point out our merits when due. That's just how life is. So why give 101% at work when you're only being judged for say 80% of it. If it's your lunch hour, go and have that full hour of break. If your work ends at 5pm, prepare to leave by 4.45pm, shut down your computers by 4.55pm and slowly walk out the door to tap out at 5pm on the dot.
Your time is precious, don't waste it at work. When you leave the company, they won't grieve for you. They will hire another to cover your position, and the company moves on. Your time with family, friends, etc. on the other hand are more precious. Even if you don't have plans to meet anyone, just go home early and take a nice long shower and relax for the night.
Well, at least I realized it now rather than too later. Even if you think that there's outstanding things to do at work, just know that your job never ends. There will always be one thing after another pending for you to take in on. Just leave it, and get on to in the next day. Until my next.
Xox.
Okay next post is up. I don't know, I think lately I've been having too much penned thoughts that it's affecting my behavior. Like I get annoyed much more easily cause I've been holding it in for too long. I know it's not good for me, so I'll go back to blogging.
This post, is about working efficiently. Let's be honest here, we - well majority of us work as diligently as possible and many time, our efforts are not seen by our immediate superiors unless we are one of those more outspoken or outgoing individuals.
I realize this since I started my part time job back in 2009. You have to be "in the group" to be recognized. If you're not, well you're just an average worker.
So that's fine for me cause I've been doing my own stuff and helping out as and when I can. I don't need more recognition cause I know I'm doing what I'm supposed to do. But then sometimes you are limited your own position in certain situations. And this is when you need a superior to step in.
I typed out a whole lengthy piece, but it got so personal I had to re-write the second half of it. Anyway, back to working efficiently. I used to eat and work during my lunch hours - meaning throwing my one hour of rest time away. I used to not care when I needed to wait for the team to arrive at the office before being able to make my way home. I could have claimed hours and hours of time off, but I didn't cause I didn't put that much attention into it.
Until I realized that I've been doing it all wrong. You see, people will point out our mistakes when they see us make one, but they will not point out our merits when due. That's just how life is. So why give 101% at work when you're only being judged for say 80% of it. If it's your lunch hour, go and have that full hour of break. If your work ends at 5pm, prepare to leave by 4.45pm, shut down your computers by 4.55pm and slowly walk out the door to tap out at 5pm on the dot.
Your time is precious, don't waste it at work. When you leave the company, they won't grieve for you. They will hire another to cover your position, and the company moves on. Your time with family, friends, etc. on the other hand are more precious. Even if you don't have plans to meet anyone, just go home early and take a nice long shower and relax for the night.
Well, at least I realized it now rather than too later. Even if you think that there's outstanding things to do at work, just know that your job never ends. There will always be one thing after another pending for you to take in on. Just leave it, and get on to in the next day. Until my next.
Xox.
Removing toxic people from your life
Thursday, January 24, 2019
Heyyo!
Okay, so I know that I haven't been blogging for the longest period of my life - and most of the time I cheated (I changed the scheduled date of my post to backdate it), just so that it seems I'm still active. I really miss blogging, partly because this is a semi-private space that only a certain few people can still remember the link to it.
The topic that I want to rant about today is: TOXIC PEOPLE. Yes, you read it right. These are what I call pests that should just stick to their own cave. Why am I so angry with these pests? While those live encounters are not as bad, it's those keyboard warriors that should really go rot and die.
One day when scrolling in Facebook, I came across an interesting story which was shared by the admin of a page. I can't really remember the story well, but it was enough to grab my attention. And I thought that hey maybe this page has more interesting stories to share and I followed the page.
Weeks passed by, and one day I came across another story. It's about this single mother with a special child who is confused who she should be with. One was a drug addict, but cared very much about her and her child's well-being. And the other was a normal guy, but who cannot stand the special child and beats the child up.
The comments were ugly, disrespectful, and inhumane. Why? Come on, first of all - you guys should comment on the the situation if you really want to, but why do you have to stereotype people? Like I saw few people commenting things such as:
- Once an addict, always an addict. They will never change, you should not involve yourself with such person.
- Pemadat ni baru2 je sume kate2 indah. Nnti da dapat, ke lain. (Drug addicts are just sweet-talkers. Once they fully "get" you, they will change)
I am appalled. Even when I know that I'm no saint and not pious, I sighed "Astaghfirullah". Like immediately. I mean who are we to judge?? How can you be so sure that someone will never change just because you knew someone who was in that position before. The sadder thing is that majority of these comments came from the Malay-Muslim community.
Why it's disheartening? Because how can we, mere humans, forget that Hidayah itu milik Allah? The will to change is in their hearts. If they decide that they no longer wish to be who they used to be because of new found commitments, love, family, etc., then they can change. It's our sick society's mindset that has got to change. We should be more encouraging in order for them to believe in themselves. Why put them down when we can support them to become a better person?
The common stereotype is that 'people who have tattoos, drug addict/peddlers, have a sinful past are all scums of the earth' needs to be changed. Because like us, they are humans too. And like us, they are battling their inner demons. The only difference, they are courageous enough to show their true self to the world, while the rest of us are covering it all up cowardly.
Come on people, it's 2019. Don't you think it's time for a change? Oh and for the record, I un-followed the page after that post. Surround yourself with positive vibes, and remove toxins from your life. Food for thoughts. Until my next long rant.
Xox.
Have Faith
Wednesday, July 18, 2018
Do you believe in fate? Do you believe in destiny?
During the cake cutting portion, our parents were asked to make a speech to us. & this was the opening of my dad's speech.
During the time that we got to know each other, we found out that we were always next to each other (not literally - but close), throughout us growing up. From us being in the same neighborhood, to us hanging out at the exact same spot and having the same mutual friend. Even my first love was his camp mate!
But never once did we lay eyes on each other, never once did we come to know of each other's existence. It was then that I realize how great Allah's plan is for us, for every one of us. Jodoh itu rahsia Allah. Every thing in our lives has been written since the day we were in our mother's belly. When the time is right, He will give unto us what we deserve. Allah does not give us what we want when we want it, but He will give us what we need when we need it.
Indeed, at the point of time when every thing was wrong, and we're both searching for what's missing, we were given each other. To love and be loved. But above all, to love Allah and trust Him and His plans. When we put Allah first before everything else, every thing will fall into place.
I guess what I'm trying to say is that... we just gotta KEEP CALM AND HAVE FAITH IN ALLAH. Even if you're not pious. Even if you're still sinning every single day. We are ultimately humans, and we sin unknowingly.
Xox
During the cake cutting portion, our parents were asked to make a speech to us. & this was the opening of my dad's speech.
Pertemuan ini pertemuan yang pada saya adalah satu pertemuan yang bukan diatur oleh manusia, tetapi ianya diatur oleh Allah SWT, dan inilah pertemuan yang sangat istimewa untuk anak perempuan saya dan pasangannya.In my earlier post, I mentioned about the three loves that I had/have. And the opening portion of my dad's speech is on point when it comes to how we met. Why?
During the time that we got to know each other, we found out that we were always next to each other (not literally - but close), throughout us growing up. From us being in the same neighborhood, to us hanging out at the exact same spot and having the same mutual friend. Even my first love was his camp mate!
But never once did we lay eyes on each other, never once did we come to know of each other's existence. It was then that I realize how great Allah's plan is for us, for every one of us. Jodoh itu rahsia Allah. Every thing in our lives has been written since the day we were in our mother's belly. When the time is right, He will give unto us what we deserve. Allah does not give us what we want when we want it, but He will give us what we need when we need it.
Indeed, at the point of time when every thing was wrong, and we're both searching for what's missing, we were given each other. To love and be loved. But above all, to love Allah and trust Him and His plans. When we put Allah first before everything else, every thing will fall into place.
I guess what I'm trying to say is that... we just gotta KEEP CALM AND HAVE FAITH IN ALLAH. Even if you're not pious. Even if you're still sinning every single day. We are ultimately humans, and we sin unknowingly.
Xox
The Three Loves.
Friday, July 13, 2018
I came across one article on Facebook the other day and I was able to relate it well. That article mentioned that in our lives, we will come across three loves. I think I'll post the link up for you readers to read up on it as well. Article
The First: The Love that Looks Right
My very first love: B'gosh. I knew him during my rebel days when I was about done with secondary school. One of my girls had this guy contact and he wanted to meet her, so eventually it was 3 on 3. At a bench on East Coast Park. I lied to him about my age, cause I cannot be bothered.
But then we clicked on so well, and we were inseparable. We were never an item, but he was there every single time. & during every riding session, when my girls met with different group of guys, he'd be my only rider. During the years we were "just friends", he never once disrespected me.
It was exactly what it was - the love that looks right. And after all the motivation from his friends and mine, we got together. I was the innocent one in love, never doubtful and never judging. He had his freedom, and I had mine. We both had our family's approval, but I guess we were growing up too fast, and after a while our interest were not aligned & we went on separate ways.
The Second: The Hard Love
The one that hits me the hardest: Soulfly. It was during my polytechnic days, and I was just here and there after the breakup with my first. I just went thru the operation for my spine and was back at home resting. One day this guy added me up on Facebook and started chatting up to me on msn (legend or what, haha!), then we started webcamming. Once I got better, he suggested a meet-up. But because I was very skeptical, I told him to just tag along with my friends since we're going clubbing. & we've been catching up ever since.
When we finally got together, there was 1001 things that was in our way. But I thought that if I hold on to the relationship strong enough, we will make it. Damn, we even got engaged. The challenges we faced after we were engaged got even stronger, and I got hurt and pushed to the limit time and again. I don't know how many times I wanted to give up but I keep on telling myself to make it work. Even when I know that our relationship is way beyond salvage. Even when my feelings for him got drained over time. Until that very last straw, I remember calling my mom & said "Ma, it's over. I want to break the engagement. Please don't ask me any questions, I will answer you when I'm ready. Just help me call his mom and say this is over. No need for our families to meet for a formal ending, just end it".
Only God knows how much I suffered days, months and years after that. The shit I went thru, and how strong I had to be to pull myself up after that 3years of relationship. I've only told bits & pieces to my mom and my sister, and only a certain few know of the whole story of my very beautyfool relationship.
The reason why I've always been away every October in the following years is because it hits me hard on that particular month. Sometimes too hard it's hard for me to face people when I'm here in Singapore.
The Third: The Love that Lasts (in shaa Allah)
Then comes this guy: MFS. Our very first exchange of words was when I was puking under a tree right outside his workplace. His first words to me was "Wah dekni muntah pon nak cekak pinggang". Subsequently, our very minimal conversation was only "lighter?" It wasn't until an incident that we started texting, and even then it was fully friend-zone from the start. Zero thoughts of even being with him.
But as time passes by, we got closer and one day he said "Do you think it's too early for us to get married?" Of course I brushed it off, and I told him that I leave everything to God. But before he even has the intention of marrying me, he needs to answer me on the reason why he wanted to marry me. Because in my head and heart, I don't need someone who will answer me with cheesy lines, or someone who will answer me saying that he can provide for me and such. I can very well provide for myself and I know that I'm not pretty and model like. I told him that I will ask him again after a certain period of time (can't remember how long).
The day came and I asked him "So, why do you wanna marry me?". He answered:
I'll talk more soon,
Xox
The First: The Love that Looks Right
My very first love: B'gosh. I knew him during my rebel days when I was about done with secondary school. One of my girls had this guy contact and he wanted to meet her, so eventually it was 3 on 3. At a bench on East Coast Park. I lied to him about my age, cause I cannot be bothered.
But then we clicked on so well, and we were inseparable. We were never an item, but he was there every single time. & during every riding session, when my girls met with different group of guys, he'd be my only rider. During the years we were "just friends", he never once disrespected me.
It was exactly what it was - the love that looks right. And after all the motivation from his friends and mine, we got together. I was the innocent one in love, never doubtful and never judging. He had his freedom, and I had mine. We both had our family's approval, but I guess we were growing up too fast, and after a while our interest were not aligned & we went on separate ways.
The Second: The Hard Love
The one that hits me the hardest: Soulfly. It was during my polytechnic days, and I was just here and there after the breakup with my first. I just went thru the operation for my spine and was back at home resting. One day this guy added me up on Facebook and started chatting up to me on msn (legend or what, haha!), then we started webcamming. Once I got better, he suggested a meet-up. But because I was very skeptical, I told him to just tag along with my friends since we're going clubbing. & we've been catching up ever since.
When we finally got together, there was 1001 things that was in our way. But I thought that if I hold on to the relationship strong enough, we will make it. Damn, we even got engaged. The challenges we faced after we were engaged got even stronger, and I got hurt and pushed to the limit time and again. I don't know how many times I wanted to give up but I keep on telling myself to make it work. Even when I know that our relationship is way beyond salvage. Even when my feelings for him got drained over time. Until that very last straw, I remember calling my mom & said "Ma, it's over. I want to break the engagement. Please don't ask me any questions, I will answer you when I'm ready. Just help me call his mom and say this is over. No need for our families to meet for a formal ending, just end it".
Only God knows how much I suffered days, months and years after that. The shit I went thru, and how strong I had to be to pull myself up after that 3years of relationship. I've only told bits & pieces to my mom and my sister, and only a certain few know of the whole story of my very beautyfool relationship.
The reason why I've always been away every October in the following years is because it hits me hard on that particular month. Sometimes too hard it's hard for me to face people when I'm here in Singapore.
The Third: The Love that Lasts (in shaa Allah)
And the third is the love we never see coming. The one that usually looks all wrong for us and that destroys any lingering ideals we clung to about what love is supposed to be. This is the love that comes so easy it doesn’t seem possible. It’s the kind where the connection can’t be explained and knocks us off our feet because we never planned for it.Honestly, after the second love, I was building brick walls to guard my heart. & although there was/were guys here and there - it was all too cliche. I can no longer tolerate guys who are overly manja, cheesy, demanding, obsessive, etc. I needed a guy who fits the bill nicely, someone who can talk to me about dragons & aliens, and also religion & present time news. I needed a guy who can accommodate my overly complex mind and utterly fragile body, yet still want to be with me.
Then comes this guy: MFS. Our very first exchange of words was when I was puking under a tree right outside his workplace. His first words to me was "Wah dekni muntah pon nak cekak pinggang". Subsequently, our very minimal conversation was only "lighter?" It wasn't until an incident that we started texting, and even then it was fully friend-zone from the start. Zero thoughts of even being with him.
But as time passes by, we got closer and one day he said "Do you think it's too early for us to get married?" Of course I brushed it off, and I told him that I leave everything to God. But before he even has the intention of marrying me, he needs to answer me on the reason why he wanted to marry me. Because in my head and heart, I don't need someone who will answer me with cheesy lines, or someone who will answer me saying that he can provide for me and such. I can very well provide for myself and I know that I'm not pretty and model like. I told him that I will ask him again after a certain period of time (can't remember how long).
The day came and I asked him "So, why do you wanna marry me?". He answered:
"I want to marry you for the sake of Allah. To fulfill half of my deen, and lead you to Jannah, in shaa Allah".Honestly, at that point of time, I was taken aback and I kept quiet. His answer was like the light I was searching for. & I said to proceed. And so we did, his family officially came over on end December last year to officially ask for my hand in marriage. We were secretly engaged for 7months before we got married on 07.07.2018.
I'll talk more soon,
Xox
